For the New Widow
Today I want to talk to my newly widowed friends. I know there are quite a few of you who are reading this blog and I just want to try to give you a bit of hope for today.
Please know that you CAN make it. Actually, you will make it – that is just really hard to see right now. I am sorry for the struggle you are in. I am sorry that it feels like you have no control over your life. I remember feeling so betrayed. I wasn’t even sure who I felt the most betrayed by – God, or Chad. I felt like I had no say in any of this and now I was the one left to walk through all this horrible hurt and pick up the pieces and to try to make it make sense to my babies and to run my home. Ug.
I get it. I really do.
God IS a faithful God, my friends. He really is. I recently had a dear friend write me. She is going through grief right now. She point blank asked me how I can tell people that they can trust God when they are going through such hell? I love it when people are real.
The truth is, it was really hard to trust. I wasn’t sure I wanted to trust a God who had allowed such horror in my life. Where was His goodness? How can you trust that God?
It is simple, my friends. What choice do we have? It all comes back to that. Sure, I could have chosen to turn my back on Him and tried muddle through on my own. What a disaster that would have been.
The only way I could see it was that we live in a fallen world and because of it there is suffering . . . and death. Death, actually, doesn’t make sense to us because we weren’t created for it. But, sin entered the world and with it came death. God’s goodness doesn’t come in the form of keeping us from suffering. His goodness comes in the form of sustaining us THROUGH the suffering.
My friends – let me repeat that . . .God’s goodness comes in the form of sustaining us THROUGH the suffering. Through your suffering. Through mine!
He IS good. This world is not. Sometimes our lives are not. But please do not lose hope in the fact that He IS good!
I could write Psalm after Psalm that give hope in God’s goodness. My challenge to you is to wrap yourself in the Psalms. Bury yourself in them! Let them be your constant reminder of God’s love and presence in your life.
Psalm 16:8 says, “I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for He is right beside me.”
Oh, my friend! Please do not forget, when your grief and pain swallow you up – that God is right beside you.
As you traverse another weekend, God is right beside you.
As you listen to others speak about putting up their decorations and you can barely fathom getting through the holiday, God is right beside you.
As you face your first Thanksgiving alone, God is right beside you.
PLEASE, please remember that God is right beside you. Take this time in your life to nuzzle into Him in a way you have never had to.
God is right beside you! THAT is our hope!